Male fantasies: what men really dream about

A sexual fantasy is defined as a mental representation, often scripted and idealised, that stimulates desire and arousal. According to a recent survey[2] conducted in clinical psychology, nearly 60% of men believe that fulfilling their fantasies is essential for a satisfying sex life.

These scenarios, which may sometimes seem strange or unusual, unfold in the mind and tap into the subconscious to unleash the libido.

So why do men fantasise?

A sex therapist will explain that these mental images are not necessarily desires to be acted upon in real life. Rather, they act as release valves that feed sexual appetite and physiologically prepare the body before sleeping with a partner.

This list of male fantasies is interesting to explore, but not everything should be taken literally. Many of these desires remain purely theoretical: a scenario is imagined, but most are difficult to realise in everyday life. Ultimately, the majority of these fantasies remain rather inaccessible—more dreamed about than experienced.

This is where ONY comes in with our TOP 10 male fantasies that are much more accessible in your daily life!

The idea of having multiple partners remains a classic among male fantasies. Whether it's a threesome, an orgy, or a swinging party, around 36% of men dream of realising this desire.

The presence of multiple partners amplifies visual and tactile stimuli. Note: most men prefer sharing this experience with multiple women rather than with men.

Boss and assistant, teacher and student, spy and target… the thrill of dominating or being dominated is extremely powerful. This need to take control or surrender intensely stimulates desire.

Moreover, for those looking to prolong pleasure and last as long as desired during these dominance games, the Pulse One by ONY becomes an invaluable ally.

Do you share this fantasy, like 53% of the men surveyed in the IPSOS study?

This fantasy isn't just about the idea of "doing it outside" or playing the exhibitionist. What is truly appealing is above all the feeling of freedom and the pleasure of being in a beautiful, soothing environment away from everyday life. Nature provides a setting that inspires letting go and deep immersion, far from the stress a public space might create.

Moreover, according to the IFOP survey[1], the fear of being seen is a real deterrent for the majority, rather than a source of excitement. While 70% of men (and 60% of women) fantasise about having sex in a car, that figure drops to 27% (15% for women) when it comes to being in a traffic jam.

Watching your partner or being watched intensely stimulates the visual cortex. Many men admit an attraction to these visual experiences, whether it is seeing their partner naked or being the centre of attention.

Imagining being with an unfamiliar woman or fantasising about infidelity lets you taste the thrill of the forbidden. Moreover, this desire for infidelity seems to increase in summer: according to an IFOP study[1], 34% of men in relationships feel a stronger urge to change partners during the summer season.

Role-playing helps lower inhibitions. And yes, countless couples spice up their intimate relationships by bringing in costumes (nurse, police officer...)... True therapy through play!

Making love in unusual places generates an adrenaline rush linked to the fear of being caught. This transgression of social rules increases heart rate by 20 to 30 beats per minute, intensifying theorgasm.

The sensuality of an erotic massage that shifts into sex sometimes meets a need for deep relaxation. Tactile stimulation reduces stress and creates the ideal conditions for pleasure...

The idea of partner swapping for an evening, under the knowing gaze of other couples, plays on a mix of curiosity, freedom, and the forbidden… enough to send adrenaline and imagination soaring?

According to the IPSOS study, 11% of men report having this fantasy...

Introducing a sex toy during intimacy is a great way to spice up a relationship. According to an IFOP survey[3], 67% of French men (compared to 65% of French women) feel that using a sex toy contributes to their sexual well-being.

Moving from fantasy to reality requires preparation, mutual trust, and a clear understanding of each other's expectations.

The first step to fulfilling a fantasy is talking about it openly. It is crucial to approach the subject with kindness, without ever imposing your preferences. Good communication ensures that both partners are on the same page. Expressing your erotic desires strengthens intimacy and helps dispel the taboos surrounding male sexuality.

If you decide to take the plunge and incorporate these scenarios into your intimacy, it is essential to define clear boundaries. Here are some key rules to follow to ensure a successful experience:

Remember, a fantasy doesn't always have to be acted upon!

[1] IFOP study for the "Summer Show" on Quotidien broadcast on Friday 23 June at 23:20 on TF1. Sample of 2,011 people, representative of the French population aged 18 and over. The representativeness of the sample was ensured by the quota method (gender, age, socio-professional category) after stratification by region and urban category. The interviews were conducted via an online self-administered questionnaire (CAWI – Computer Assisted Web Interviewing) from 15 to 16 June 2017.

[2] Survey conducted for Marie-Claire from 24 to 27 May 2000 on a sample of 480 men drawn from a representative sample of the general population aged 18 and over, interviewed face-to-face. Quota method (age, socio-professional category of the head of household) and stratification by region and urban area category.

[3] IFOP study for dorcelstore.com. The survey was conducted on a representative sample of 2,012 people, representative of the metropolitan population aged 18 to 69