25 November 2025
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What women really think of male sex toys: they approve!
Masturbator, Cockring, P-spot massager...
What do women really think of these objects that promise to intensify their partner's pleasure?
ONY's survey finally lifts the veil on this mystery.
The key takeaways:
- Women are broadly in favour of male sex toys and see them as tools for pleasure and closeness.
- Using these accessories is no taboo: it's actually common practice — 49% of French women have already used a sex toy at some point in their lives. Even more striking: 69% of French women feel that using a sex toy contributes to their sexual well-being.
- These toys help break the routine, intensify sensations and bring a new dimension to your intimate life as a couple.
- A sex toy, a pleasure object reserved for singles? The figures tell a different story: 75% of women in relationships say they are ready to use a sex toy, according to Le Figaro.
Women's views on sex toys in general
Long confined to the shadow of taboos, intimate toys have gradually found their place in conversations and everyday practice. Numerous studies prove it.
The numbers speak for themselves!
Recent studies reveal a far more open reality than some might have imagined. Far from being a marginal phenomenon, the use of sex toys is a widespread and well-regarded practice. According to an IFOP study[1], nearly half of French women (49%) say they have used an intimate accessory at least once in their lives. It's therefore not so surprising to one day discover a toy of a… Phallic shape in your girlfriend's wardrobe!
Even more revealing: 75% of French women currently in a relationship say they are ready to use a sex toy (or a new sex toy) to spice up their intimate moments or sexual play.
And indeed, the benefits are tangible: two thirds of female users (65%) find that sex toys contribute to their sexual well-being. The idea that these pleasure objects are allies for a fulfilling intimate life is now well and truly established.
Testimonial: what do women really think of the male sex toy?
When the subject of male sex toys comes up, women's responses are often tinged with a warm curiosity. More open-minded than men, when all is said and done?
I'll admit I was a little sceptical about masturbators at first. But I quickly realised it made my partner more comfortable and confident. It even adds a playful dimension to our intimacy. Honestly, I find it sexy and completely natural when I see him enjoying himself! And between us, it's pretty handy when I'm not in the mood or I'm away — he can pleasure himself on his own.
recalls Estelle, who gave Exa One to her boyfriend a few months ago.
Far from being a sign of weakness or lack, using a sex toy for men is often seen as a mark of open-mindedness and simply a desire for pleasure.
An asset for the couple?
Overall, studies and testimonials reveal a predominantly positive — even enthusiastic — female perception of male sex toys. Women often see these accessories as tools for breaking the routine and bringing a new dimension to shared pleasure.
They're not wrong: masturbator, cock rings and p-spot massagers can intensify sensations and prolong moments of intimacy. Solo or as a couple!
Taking the initiative: a true catalyst for desire and closeness
For women, a man who dares to take the initiative in his relationship with sex toys is seen as open-minded, self-assured and keen to spice up their intimate life together. Far from being a sign of weakness, this boldness makes him all the more attractive.
This initiative can reignite the spark, introduce novelty and break the routine.
How to bring up the subject as a couple?
That said, introducing male sex toys into a couple's intimate life does require open and considerate communication. It's not about imposing, but about suggesting. Here are a few ways to broach the subject:
What if we tried it together?
Spark their interest by suggesting that discovering new sensations together can be fun and exciting.
Make your moments even sexier!
Show that the goal is to deepen intimacy and shared pleasure by exploring new experiences together.
A little humour and, above all, a lot of pleasure!
Lighten the mood and make the suggestion sexy by slipping in the idea of spicing up your intimate moments with a touch of something new!
The solo bonus
Taking time to explore your own desires can be a real asset for your relationship. Tell him that discovering yourself solo allows you to better share what excites you together.
FAQ: frequently asked questions
What attracts women most in a man?
What attracts a woman to a man is full of mystery… But one quality comes up time and again in testimonials. Yes — a man is attractive in a woman's eyes when he shows independence, self-sufficiency and confidence in himself.
A man who dares to explore his desires, who takes an interest in his own body and his pleasure without inhibition, radiates an irresistible aura of confidence. It's this ability to find fulfilment on his own, while knowing how to enrich a relationship, that is truly seductive.
To put it plainly: a man who knows his body and knows how to masturbate well is a man who is free — and that's exactly what women notice.
Do women use sex toys more than men?
Contrary to popular belief, it's not women who use sex toys the most.
Men are slightly ahead, with 49% of users compared to 47% among women.
So gentlemen, don't get left behind — it's time to take the plunge and treat yourself to a sex toy!
Are sex toys only for single men?
Of course not! It's time to put this misconception to rest once and for all. Male sex toys have their place both in the single man's life and in the intimacy of a couple. The data confirms it: use as a couple even surpasses solo use (45% vs 29% according to La Dépêche, citing the IFOP study).
How to broach the subject of sex toys with your partner?
Broaching this subject takes tact, but it's nothing insurmountable. Start by gauging your partner's desires through general conversations about sexuality and self-discovery.
Explain that you want to explore something new together to spice up your intimate moments — not because something is wrong in your relationship. Listen to their reactions, respect any reservations they may have and give them the time to warm up to the idea.
With patience and kindness, a timid curiosity can become a genuine desire to explore together.
The editorial team
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[1] IFOP study dating from 2017 for dorcelstore.com. The survey was conducted with a representative sample of 2,012 people, representative of the metropolitan population aged 18 to 69.
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