"My first prostate orgasm": interview

Prostatic pleasure has been growing in popularity over the past few years. A finger in the anus? A rimjob during a 69?

Men are increasingly open to exploring these new sensations. But there is still a long way to go before reaching and mastering prostate stimulation and the prostate orgasm… For while more and more men are hearing about it, this orgasm — out of reach for some — requires a great deal of practice and patience…

Meeting Arthur*, a devoted enthusiast of this practice.

Hello Arthur, could you briefly introduce yourself?

My name is Arthur, I'm 35 years old and I'm from the Paris area. I've been married to Chloé for 4 years and we now have a 3-year-old child. I work as an accountant at a large international company, whose name I'll keep to myself.

How did you discover ONY?

The first time was about a year ago, on a very well-known adult platform. I came across one of your adverts, clicked on it and landed on your website — which is very well designed, by the way.

I then decided to order your p-spot massager, the Explo. What a magnificent device! After a few months of use, I sent you an email to share my complete satisfaction with the product. You then put forward this interview proposal, which I accepted.

A couple on a bed next to the Explo p-spot massager

When did you first experience prostatic pleasure?

I remember it like it was yesterday. I was taking a bath after a long day at work with my ex-girlfriend, about 8 or 9 years ago. We were both just unwinding quietly.

Then, for a laugh, she decided to tickle me between the legs with her finger. I was surprised at first and flinched a little, but with a smile I told her she could carry on. And why not, really? Not one to hold back, she continued while also stroking me.

After a while, she started to put a finger inside me, while still masturbating me. It was surprising and genuinely enjoyable! I have very fond memories of it. It was then, after some research online, that I discovered there was another way to experience pleasure beyond the penis.

I also discovered that we all have a prostate — an erogenous zone in men. You can even orgasm from it!

Is it unsettling to think that you can experience pleasure from that part of the body?

Yes. When you're young and straight, you tend to think that pleasure is all about the penis and that the anus is something only gay men engage with.

Honestly, my first experience in the bath initially left me unsettled. At first, I even questioned my own sexuality. And the most surprising thing in all of this: discovering that the prostate orgasm is in a league of its own. It's the BIG boss of male orgasms. The ULTIMATE orgasm!

Yes, the P-spot and the prostate orgasm were truly new territory for me at that point. What a revelation…

Was this first experience of prostate massage a turning point?

Between the bath experience and buying the P-spot massager, spanning a few years, I had many experiences: anal stimulation with my fingers or with those of former girlfriends, anilingus... It was enjoyable, but I still couldn't quite get there.

Then I met my wife. We clicked sexually straight away. We love treating each other and trying new things.

"What a release! I think I actually cried out! I had never experienced an orgasm like that before."

Arthur

She's also quite fond of prostate stimulation. We find it exciting and refreshing. This practice spices up our sex life by bringing variety to our pleasures.

Eventually, we decided to take things to the next level and buy a dedicated sex toy — which is how I ended up visiting your online erotic shop.

Tell us about that first prostate orgasm.

It was less than a year ago. It wasn't my first attempt with the p-spot massager Explo.

I tried it alone, and as a couple. I was getting closer and closer as I practised with the Explo.

But I still had a psychological block. Something was still missing — probably a lack of focus… But perhaps also a touch of apprehension. Essentially, the fear of being judged, a sense of shame.

One day, my wife was out in town and I had 2 hours to myself, in peace and quiet. I was in my living room, more determined than ever.

First, I tried to clear my mind. This time, I was calm and fully at ease.

Then I lay down on my bed in front of the computer and put on an adult film.

Of course, my massager is never far away. So I lubricated the area generously to start stimulating myself between the legs, while masturbating at the same time. Then, about 5 minutes later, I was able to start inserting the Explo inside me, to a depth of around 10 cm, positioning the head of the Explo towards the front, towards the penis, to reach my prostate — a kind of soft little lump next to the rectum, for those who aren't familiar with it. Of course, you have to go gently, as always.

This time, my position was as follows: lying on my back with my knees slightly raised. I started off slowly, but as the pleasure built, I moved through the modes and slightly more rhythmic variations using the sex toy's remote control.

After that, it all depends on each person's metabolism and desires. But for me, little by little, as soon as I feel the arousal building, I increase the pressure the head of the massager exerts on the prostate.

Then I let the massager do the work with its circular movements on the P-spot. While masturbating, of course. Pure bliss…

That afternoon, I could feel the desire rising, again and again… And then, at a certain point, I let go completely — total surrender.

And then — whoosh — an intense rush of pleasure! What a release! I think I actually cried out! I had never experienced an orgasm like that before. Incredible…

What sensations do you experience during a prostate orgasm? How does it differ from a penile orgasm?

It's an orgasm that ripples through the entire body in successive waves. It literally electrifies you. The sensations are incredibly powerful. It's as if you're possessed — in the best possible way, of course!

The prostate orgasm is clearly more intense, more powerful, more diffuse, longer and even deeper than the penile orgasm.

For me, the prostate orgasm and the ejaculatory orgasm simply aren't comparable. I'd perhaps put it on a par with the G-spot orgasm in women. From what women say, it's something deeply internal, incredibly intense, that hits you at your core. Just like the P-spot orgasm.

And what's more, a prostate orgasm can even bring me to ejaculate if I stimulate myself at the same time. It's hard to imagine the power of that orgasm until you've actually experienced it.

What does your wife think of your interest in this practice?

As I said, we're very much aligned on this. She loves watching me get off. So when I orgasm from the prostate, she doesn't judge me negatively — quite the opposite!

And for those who don't dare bring it up with their girlfriend — just go for it, don't be ashamed. And for those whose girlfriend doesn't understand these pleasures — well, I'd suggest it might be time to move on.

Does your wife take part in fulfilling this fantasy?

For me, it's no longer a fantasy — it's a speciality, an obsession [laughs]!

Because ever since that first time, I've had these orgasms one after another. It's no longer a mystery to me. To answer your question directly: absolutely! Prostate massage can absolutely be enjoyed with a partner. And you need to be with the right person — which is very much the case for me.

By the way, the p-spot massager Explo also comes with a remote control. My wife loves taking control of my pleasure and watching me climax. One piece of advice: encourage open communication as a couple. And above all, make sure you're both comfortable.

What would you say to those who are curious but can't quite take the plunge?

First of all, I'd encourage them to demystify the prostate and the anus. Stop thinking that anal practices are exclusively for gay men.

Then, take it step by step. Sex is first and foremost a learning process. We've all been there. Think back to when you were still a young virgin — you learnt through experience, always one step at a time.

Take the time to discover yourself. Start with a finger and stimulate this area of the body, which remains very much a taboo. Prostate stimulation is a sexual practice like any other.

And finally, my message to them is: be bold! We only live once. Explore your body and your sexuality. And trust me, prostatic pleasure offers incredible sensations.