How to make a woman ejaculate? Techniques and tips

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Understanding the difference between female ejaculation and squirting All the questions you dare not ask The 2 key steps to making a woman ejaculate 3 types of female sex toys to encourage female ejaculation Conclusion

Did you think ejaculation was the preserve of men? Think again — during orgasm, women can also release fluids, in varying quantities.

This natural reaction sometimes surprises some sexual partners…

However, it is important not to confuse female ejaculation and squirting, as these are two distinct phenomena.

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Key takeaways from this article

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Ejaculation vs squirting: female ejaculation is a discreet whitish fluid, whereas squirting is an abundant, transparent jet originating from the bladder.

Not all women can necessarily ejaculate: every body is different, and relaxation along with strong stimulation are essential.

G-spot and caresses: the G-spot, located on the front wall of the vagina, is the primary zone, often preceded by clitoral stimulation and foreplay.

Sex toys as allies: curved vibrators, dual stimulators or connected toys can help intensify pleasure and encourage ejaculation.

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Understanding the difference between female ejaculation and squirting

Female ejaculation: a little-understood phenomenon

This odourless, whitish fluid has a viscous composition very close to that of male pre-seminal fluid. It is secreted by the Skene's glands (or paraurethral glands), located along the urethra.

This is a natural phenomenon that occurs reflexively during sexual intercourse, just as it does in men. That is why this fluid is referred to as "female semen", even though it is not fertile.

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When a woman ejaculates, it is generally because she is having an orgasm or experiencing a great deal of sexual pleasure. Small consecutive jets can then be seen emerging from her intimate area.

Ejaculation mixes with vaginal secretions, so it is not uncommon for it to go completely unnoticed. Rest assured, it is not automatic: you can bring a woman to orgasm without her ejaculating.

Squirting: between taboo and fantasy

Unless you have never visited a porn site, you have most likely heard of squirting — which simply means "jet" in English. This spectacular fluid gushing from between a woman's legs is very widely represented in mainstream adult videos.

Although squirting is a fantasy for many men, this physiological reaction remains a taboo in intimate settings, as it is often associated with urine, which can lead to embarrassment or even shame.

Squirting is frequently confused with female ejaculation, as discussed earlier. While both types of secretions are released following intense arousal, they are nonetheless different from one another. With squirting, the bladder fills with a transparent fluid that is then expelled through the urethra in a continuous and abundant jet. It is also completely odourless.

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All the questions you dare not ask about female ejaculation…

How much fluid is secreted?

If you want to make a woman ejaculate, bear in mind that due to the small size of the Skene's glands (2 to 3 grams), secretions tend to be released in very small quantities (less than one millilitre), which means they are not always detectable in the heat of the moment. One piece of advice: don't focus on your partner's squirt, but rather on her pleasure.

On the other hand, squirting is unlikely to go unnoticed. Up to 150 millilitres of fluid can be expelled continuously, which can sometimes give the impression that it is urine. It is often necessary to change the sheets after squirting. For comparison, a man ejaculates approximately 2 to 6 millilitres of semen during sexual intercourse.

Is it urine?

Is your partner having the time of her life, or is she urinating on you — that is the question! The clear fluid of female ejaculation contains acid phosphatases, zinc and prostate-specific protein.

There is absolutely no reason to feel shame or disgust when a woman squirts or ejaculates — it is not dirty, and it is entirely natural.

Squirt, for its part, is composed of 5% uric acid and urea: there are therefore traces of urine in these odourless secretions. This does not mean that when a woman squirts she is urinating: the urea is so diluted that its level is virtually zero. It can be likened to water.

Time to relax: no, your partner is not urinating on you. There is absolutely no reason to feel shame or disgust when a woman squirts or ejaculates — it is not dirty, and it is entirely natural.

Can all women ejaculate?

Unfortunately, as of 2023, science is only just beginning to explore female sexuality in depth. Researchers all agree that it is possible to make a woman ejaculate; however, since every body is different, it is difficult to state with certainty that all women are able to do so.

How does female ejaculation occur?

It occurs in two situations:

during vaginal stimulation that produces a great deal of arousal and intense sensations;
during a powerful orgasm.

Relaxation is an essential condition. Letting go and trust are two ingredients that help achieve this state of relaxation. Starting with a massage before foreplay is a great idea if you want to make a woman ejaculate…

Is this phenomenon systematic?

If you manage to make a woman ejaculate one day, you may not be able to the next. The reverse is also true. On the other hand, some women release a jet almost consistently. Nevertheless, most of the time, it requires very precise technique and/or very intense pleasure.

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The 2 key steps to making a woman ejaculate

Caresses

First and foremost, it is best to "set the scene". Foreplay is a crucial step — sometimes even the only step you will go through. Indeed, it is easier to make a woman ejaculate by stimulating her manually rather than with your penis.

You are no doubt aware that the clitoris, and in particular its external part, is the most erogenous zone of the female body. It contains around 10,000 nerve endings — no small thing! It will be extremely useful for bringing your partner to orgasm.

Start gently, with caresses, kisses or tongue strokes on her clitoris to lubricate her and gradually — but surely — build her pleasure. Take the opportunity to explore her labia minora and the entrance to her vagina. You can also enjoy other parts of her body: her breasts, anus, and so on.

Make sure she is well lubricated before sliding your fingers inside her. If you encounter any issues with lubrication, use a lubricant.

The G-spot

To make a woman ejaculate, you generally need to find what is commonly known as her G-spot, a highly erogenous zone discovered in 1950 by gynaecologist Ernest Gräfenberg.

The G-spot, measuring less than 1 cm in diameter, is located approximately 3 cm deep, on the anterior wall of the vagina (towards the stomach), an area connected to the internal part of the clitoris. You will recognise it by its thick, textured mucous membrane.

The best technique to stimulate the G-spot is to slide the last two phalanges of your finger inside your partner, with your palm facing upwards, then gently curl them, as if making a hook.

To create additional pressure and intensify her pleasure, you can press your other hand on her pubis while you stimulate her G-spot.

And what about sex toys?

Just like your fingers, sex toys will be your allies in your quest for the G-spot! As well as adapting to women's anatomy and providing them with pleasure, they have the added benefit of creating a great sense of intimacy within a couple. Online and in sex shops, there is a huge variety of sex toys in different sizes, shapes and materials. Some toys come with very interesting features: remote control, vibration settings, and more.

3 types of female sex toys to encourage female ejaculation

Curved vibrators

As we have just seen, making a woman ejaculate generally requires stimulating her G-spot. However, you can get some help by using a curved vibrator. Its shape is perfectly suited to G-spot stimulation; its vibrations, meanwhile, enhance the sensations.

Dual-stimulation sex toys

These sex toys are two-in-one: they combine a clitoral suction device (for external stimulation) and a dildo (for vaginal stimulation). By using them, you maximise your chances of giving your partner an orgasm. She will experience intense pleasure, both on her vulva and inside her intimate area.

Connected vibrators

Vibrating sex toys sold with a remote control allow you to play with your partner's pleasure during your intimate moments… You control the toy: you are the one calling the shots! With connected vibrators designed for the G-spot, you can build excitement through sexual tension, and even make a woman ejaculate from a distance.

How to make a woman ejaculate: key takeaways

The best technique for making a woman ejaculate is to stimulate her G-spot. However, every woman is different when it comes to her sexuality. Fortunately, you do not need to make your partner squirt to bring her to the heights of pleasure. Listen to her desires, enjoy yourselves, be playful between the sheets, be patient — and above all, persistent!

Lucile Tizon

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