How to stimulate the clitoris?

Gentlemen, female pleasure does not depend on the size of your penis or the intensity of your thrusts, but on your skill and your ability to adapt.

In 2023, it's no longer a secret to anyone: clitoral stimulation is the key to female pleasure!

In this article, we offer some tips and techniques to help you learn how to stimulate the clitoris , one of the most erogenous zones of the female body…

Anatomy of the clitoris

The clitoris is an erectile organ located in the vulva, at the base of the mons pubis. It is composed of erectile tissue, the corpus spongiosum, and the corpora cavernosa. Its external part consists of a glans (3 to 6 mm) covered by a hood of skin, which is itself connected to the labia minora. Its internal part consists of two roots and two vestibular bulbs that surround the vagina. Although only the glans and hood are visible, the invisible part of the clitoris gives it a total length of approximately 10 to 13 cm.

The temple of female pleasure…

Did you know that the clitoris contains over 10,000 nerve endings ? By comparison, the glans of your penis, which is also very sensitive, contains between 4,000 and 6,000. The clitoris is therefore an extremely erogenous zone whose sole function is… pleasure!

This little rosebud is undoubtedly the gateway to female pleasure! Stimulating the clitoris with fingers or tongue helps lubricate your girlfriend's vagina and helps her reach orgasm. During orgasm, a woman experiences powerful spasms, her muscles contract, her breasts swell, and her heart rate accelerates.

Clitoral orgasm vs. vaginal orgasm

Freud – the emblematic figure of psychoanalysis – long promoted the idea that there were two types of women:

the clitoral woman , who had an orgasm thanks to the stimulation of the clitoris;
the vaginal woman , who had an orgasm through vaginal stimulation.

However, today we know that all women are clitoral! This confusion was probably due to ignorance of female anatomy. As we mentioned earlier, the clitoral bulb surrounds the vagina: a so-called vaginal orgasm is actually a clitoral orgasm obtained through internal stimulation of the clitoris!

The different ways to stimulate the clitoris

Caresses

External clitoral stimulation is very effective. To give your partner pleasure, the best approach is to gently caress the clitoral glans, as well as the surrounding area (labia minora, vaginal opening, etc.). When a woman is aroused, she secretes vaginal lubrication , a natural fluid that facilitates penetration.

Internal stimulation

Generally, digital penetration (fingering) comes after foreplay. Indeed, once the genitals are wet and aroused, penetration will be much more pleasurable. This type of masturbation also helps stimulate the G-spot , an erogenous zone connected to the internal part of the clitoris.

Start by inserting one finger, then gradually add others if you feel it's pleasurable for your partner. Some people manage to insert a whole hand inside the vagina. However, one or two fingers are usually enough to bring a woman to orgasm ! While you're moving your fingers in and out, you can continue to stimulate the clitoris at the glans (the external part): this will intensify the sensations.

Cunnilingus

A well-executed cunnilingus can send a woman to seventh heaven in just a few strokes of the tongue. This practice involves licking, sucking, and kissing the vulva. While you're stimulating your lover's clitoris with your mouth, there's nothing stopping you from using your fingers to heighten the sensations and help her reach orgasm.

How to properly caress the clitoris?

Because the clitoris is a sensitive organ, it is recommended to touch it gradually and very gently. However, every woman is different: therefore, there is no foolproof masturbation technique .

Some women enjoy repeated actions, others prefer a variety of them. There are also practices that are more appealing than others: some girls love cunnilingus, while others are reluctant to have their genitals licked (due to a taboo or a bad experience they have had).

Instead of putting pressure on yourself in your sex life, learn about your partner's sexual preferences and take the time to listen to her body. Her breathing, moans, and pelvic movements will tell you what she likes. In the beginning, don't hesitate to experiment with different caresses, change the rhythm, and ask your girlfriend how she feels.

Finally, don't forget that you can also stimulate the clitoris during penetrative sex!

The 3 things to avoid during masturbation and sexual intercourse

Abrupt gestures

During masturbation, sudden movements are often unpleasant, even painful, especially at the beginning of foreplay . Avoid frantically touching the clitoris and opt for gentleness instead. Once your partner's vagina is well lubricated, you can begin more intense stimulation.

Mechanical gestures

Rushing through foreplay with mechanical movements risks deeply boring your girlfriend in bed. If she shows no signs of ecstasy, there's no point in continuing with the same finger movements. Be playful, inventive, and curious! Have fun with her pleasure by varying the rhythm and the gestures.

Having sex without foreplay

It's almost only in the movies that sex without foreplay seems to be enjoyable for women. In real life, it's a different story! Stimulating the clitoris before penetration (digital, vaginal, or anal) is the most effective way to prepare the ground: you'll increase arousal, and above all… pleasure!

However, if your partner isn't very wet , it doesn't necessarily mean she's not enjoying herself: nature (and especially vaginal dryness) means that lubrication isn't the same for everyone. We recommend buying lubricant to make intercourse more pleasurable.

The best sex positions to stimulate the clitoris

The 69th

The 69 position involves simultaneous oral sex with one's partner (fellatio and cunnilingus in a heterosexual relationship). It can be performed in two different ways:

• the two partners are lying on their sides in opposite directions;
• One of the partners lies on their back and the second positions themselves on top of them in the opposite direction.

By practicing 69, you can also insert your fingers into your partner's vagina.

The cowgirl position

In the cowgirl position, the man lies on his back and his partner straddles him. The friction of her vulva against the man's pubic bone stimulates the clitoris and greatly facilitates female orgasm . Furthermore, in this position, the woman controls the movements, the depth of penetration, and the rhythm.

The spoon

The woman lies on her side and the man lies behind her to penetrate her. The spooning position is one of the most sensual positions in the Kama Sutra. You'll have your hands free and can therefore touch your sweetheart's clitoris while you make love to her.

Sleeping Beauty

The Sleeping Beauty is simply a reclining doggy-style position: the woman lies on her stomach and the man lies on top of her. Clitoral stimulation is achieved through the friction of the vulva against the mattress. Besides being very arousing, this position is pleasurable for both partners!

How to stimulate the clitoris? What you need to know

There are countless techniques for stimulating the clitoris during foreplay or penetrative sex. The clitoris is an erectile organ that is as magical as it is subtle! The important thing is to listen to your partner's body and to be patient in your sexuality…