Long considered a taboo accessory, the male masturbator has undergone a true revolution in 2026. It is no longer a taboo object, but a sexual wellness tool designed to discover new sensations and enrich your intimate experience.
It is within this dynamic that the French sex toy brand ONY sits. Far from vulgar designs, ONY, a specialist in male pleasure, breaks the clichés with premium accessories boasting a sleek and elegant design.
Today, we're sharing advice on how to use a male masturbator. A study from 2022[1] reveals that 19% of French people say they masturbate with a sex toy. Is that the case for you?
Key takeaways from the article
This article was produced by ONY, the first French brand specialising in intimate accessories for men.
Prepare and lubricate: a clean toy, a charged battery, water-based lubricant, warmed up if you like for extra sensation — you're all set!
Explore and vary: start gently, try the different modes, rhythms and "edging" to maximise pleasure.
Clean and store: wash your toy after use, air-dry it, and keep it away from heat and dust.
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How to use a masturbator: the key steps
Knowing how to use a male masturbator correctly is the key to turning a solo pleasure session into a transcendent experience! Following a certain protocol guarantees heightened pleasure and the longevity of your toy.
Before use: the basics
Good preparation avoids interruptions. Before you begin, two checks are in order:
Hygiene
Check that the masturbator is clean. The inside of the sleeve must be spotless to avoid any risk of irritation.
Energy
If you're using an automatic model like the Exa One by ONY, make sure the battery is fully charged. A power cut mid-session is always a disappointment.
The art of the perfect lubricant and temperature
The most common mistake? Neglecting lubrication. Since silicone and TPE produce no natural lubrication, using a lubricant is essential.
It is essential to choose a water-based lubricant. Silicone-based lubricants must be avoided as they irreversibly damage the material of sex toys. For an optimal and hygienic experience, we recommend ONY's quality lubricants, formulated to respect the texture of your toys.
Expert tip: Temperature plays a crucial role. You can warm up your masturbator by running it under lukewarm water (around 38°C) before use. This warmth amplifies sensations tenfold. And of course, watching an erotic video can help get you in the mood!
Another tip: don't hesitate to put on an erotic film to warm yourself up!
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Techniques for using your automatic masturbator
Start by pleasuring yourself in front of your favourite adult film. Once your penis is erect and the entrance of the masturbator is lubricated, slowly insert yourself into the sleeve.
1) Start gently
Insert with the device switched off or on its gentlest setting. The aim isn't immediate performance, but a gradual discovery of the sensations the device has to offer.
2) Exploring the programmes
Vibrations, pulsations, automated movements: each mode offers a different sensory signature. By varying the intensity and rhythm settings, the user refines their experience and identifies what brings them the most pleasure.
3) Playing with rhythms
One of the key strengths of an automatic masturbator lies in tempo control. Speeding up, slowing down, alternating… This mastery of rhythm allows you to prolong the experience and heighten its ultimate intensity.
4) The finale inside the sleeve
When you reach the point of no return, climax inside the sleeve designed for that purpose, for 100% intense orgasmic pleasure.
Bonus tip -> "Edging":
Use the speed or mode variations to build close to orgasm, then slow down. Repeat to intensify the finale.
Solo or partnered pleasure: all possibilities are open to you
The masturbator isn't just for solo sessions. With a partner, it becomes a fascinating plaything. Your partner can take control of the toy, leaving you in an excitingly passive state. This is a great way to spice up foreplay or bridge differences in libido, bringing the product in as a playful third element in your sex life.
"Nearly half of French people (45%) have already used a sex toy with a partner, compared to fewer than a third who use them solo (29%)."
Did you know? The idea that sex toys are mainly used solo is outdated: they are more often used with a partner. According to an IFOP survey[2], nearly half of French people (45%) have already used one with a partner, compared to fewer than a third who use them solo (29%).
Care and hygiene: preserve your pleasure device
A quality masturbator is an investment. To preserve its texture, thorough maintenance is essential. Silicone and TPE can become breeding grounds for bacteria if not cleaned properly.
Post-use cleaning: simple and effective
Cleaning must be done immediately after each session. Never let the lubricant dry inside.
1) Disassembly
Unscrew the sleeve from the part containing the rigid electric mechanism. The part with the buttons and the internal battery must be kept completely away from water.
2) Rinsing
Rinse the sleeve under lukewarm water to remove any fluids.
3) Washing
Use a gentle soap or a dedicated cleanser. For perfect hygiene, the ONY cleansing foam is the ideal maintenance solution to preserve your toy.
4) Drying
Leave the sleeve to air-dry. Make sure the inside is completely dry before placing it back in its casing.
Smart storage and usage precautions
Once clean and dry, your masturbator should be stored properly: keep it away from light and extreme heat, preferably in a dedicated pouch to protect it from dust.
Beyond immediate pleasure: the real long-term benefits of a male masturbator
Using a masturbator brings concrete physical and mental health benefits beyond simple tension release.
Impact on your performance and sexual fulfilment
Regular use helps you get to know your body and desires better: by varying stimulation, you learn to identify your point of no return, which helps control ejaculation, while also contributing to prostate health — regular frequency may reduce the risk of prostate cancer according to a Harvard study cited by allodocteurs.fr — and promoting relaxation and sleep through the release of endorphins and oxytocin during orgasm.
Let's demystify together: myths, realities and best practices
There are still misconceptions circulating about assisted male masturbation.
Myth |
Reality |
|---|---|
"The masturbator desensitises you." |
False. Soft textures prevent the loss of sensitivity caused by excessive hand pressure. |
"It's for single people." |
False. Many men in relationships use it to spice things up. |
"It creates an addiction." |
Nuance. In a healthy context, it is a tool for fulfilment, not dependency. |
For a healthy practice, listen to your body. If you experience any irritation, space out your sessions. The goal is to add pleasure.
How to use a male masturbator: our conclusion
In summary, knowing how to use a male masturbator correctly rests on three pillars: choosing quality equipment such as those offered by ONY, impeccable hygiene and uninhibited exploration. If you choose the power of the Exa One, these accessories are gateways to discovery. Don't be afraid to experiment and find your own sensory symphony. Your body is a playground and you are its master.
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Answers to your questions about using male masturbators
Can a masturbator revolutionise your intimate routine?
Absolutely. Unlike your hand, a masturbator offers textures and sensations (suction, vibration) that are impossible to replicate manually. This allows you to rediscover your penis from a new angle and break the monotony, whether solo or to spice up your relationship.
What is the recommended frequency of use?
There is no strict frequency. You can use it as often as you like, as long as it does not cause any irritation.
Which lubricant is recommended for use with a male masturbator?
It is essential to use a water-based lubricant. Silicone-based lubricants and oils are incompatible with silicone and TPE, which they degrade. A good quality water-based lubricant ensures a perfect glide and is very easy to clean off.
How to recognise a premium quality masturbator?
A premium model stands out through its materials (silicone or TPE, odour-free), the refinement of its design and its features (battery with long battery life, back-and-forth & rotation modes). A brand like ONY also guarantees a satisfaction & money-back guarantee as well as strict safety standards, unlike low-end products.
Julie from ONY
I'm Julie, welcome to the ONY blog! A passionate writer, I've been writing about sexuality for a few years now. I love experimenting, testing and exploring desire in all its forms. My articles are mainly inspired by my own experiences and real-life conversations. Curious by nature, I love it when words awaken as much as pleasure....
[1] Online survey conducted by Amorélie, representative of 1,000 participants (aged 18 to 65) in France, in collaboration with TRENDS RESEARCH.
[2] Survey conducted by IFOP in 2017 for Dorcelstore.com. The survey was carried out on a representative sample of 2,012 people, representative of the metropolitan population aged 18 to 69.
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