Discovering the prostate and why this gland can feel incredible

Interest in prostate massage continues to grow, even if taking the plunge remains a sensitive topic — a lack of information and lingering taboos play a big part. Before going further, it's essential to understand exactly what the prostate is and how stimulating it can transform your pleasure.

What exactly is the prostate?

The prostate, that small yet strategically important gland measuring around 3 to 4 cm, sits just below the bladder and surrounds the urethra. Found only in men, it plays a central role by producing the seminal fluid that makes up semen — a fundamental element for fertility and sexual health.

In terms of location, the prostate is accessible at around 5 to 7 cm from the anus, making it particularly easy to reach with a well-lubricated finger or a stimulator designed for this purpose. A reality still relatively little explored: according to the journal Le Monde, only 22% of French women say they have ever inserted a finger into their partner's anus — proof that the subject remains surrounded by discretion and prejudice.

Becoming familiar with the location and function of the prostate is already a first step towards breaking down inhibitions. Daring to explore means taking your pleasure into your own hands and opening the door to a richer, more conscious sexuality.

Why stimulate the prostate? The physical and sexual benefits revealed

Stimulating the prostate means treating yourself to new sensations and a range of pleasures rarely achieved through other forms of masturbation. Many users describe it as a deep, enveloping orgasm, sometimes even without ejaculation — quite different from more classic orgasms.

The concrete benefits of prostate massage during masturbation are plentiful:

• Access to one of the main male erogenous zones, the famous "P-spot".

• Wellbeing effect: some research suggests that prostate massage may promote better circulation in the gland and could, in the long term, help limit certain benign prostate conditions.

• Discovering new forms of orgasm, including the prostatic orgasm, which often turns usual reference points upside down. In fact, the prostatic orgasm is more intense than the penile orgasm. Some even call it a super orgasm!

It's also an opportunity to develop your sexual curiosity, learn to better identify your desires and break down preconceived ideas. Opening yourself up to this exploration means combining personal fulfilment with new-found pleasure, for a more fulfilling and uninhibited intimate life.

Preparing your prostate massage with complete peace of mind

Before embarking on prostate massage, preparation is key to enjoying an experience that is both pleasurable and safe. This moment deserves to be approached with confidence, in a relaxed state of mind, free from taboo and pressure. Here are our tips for turning this step into a genuine moment of pleasure and letting go.

Essential hygiene and precautions you need to know

Impeccable hygiene remains the first rule for fully enjoying prostate massage during masturbation. This reflex protects your comfort and your health. Take the time to wash your hands thoroughly with soap and remember to trim your nails to avoid any micro-cuts or irritation.

Also remember to:

• Gently cleanse the anal area, using no harsh products and no abrupt movements.

• Wearing a glove or putting a condom on your finger or sex toy reduces the risk of micro-cuts or infection, especially during the first few times.

• Use a water-based lubricant, which respects the mucous membranes and minimises any risk of allergy.

By taking these few precautions, you give yourself an intimate exploration free from unpleasant surprises. This atmosphere of trust and cleanliness guarantees a moment where pleasure can express itself freely, without embarrassment or worry.

The art of preparation: lubrication, position and relaxation

Let's focus on lubrication — an essential topic. Yes, preparing your prostate massage well also means preparing your body and giving yourself the best possible comfort. The choice of lubricant makes all the difference: opt for a smooth, long-lasting texture and apply it generously to your finger or sex toy for a perfectly gentle penetration.

To easily access the prostate and fully enjoy the sensations, the position you adopt matters a great deal:

• Lying on your back with knees drawn to your chest: ideal for reaching the anterior wall of the rectum.

• On your side, legs bent: perfect for those who want to progress gradually without pushing too hard.

• On all fours: an option appreciated by those who like to control the angle or depth of exploration.

Relaxation is the secret to a successful massage. Give yourself real time to unwind — for example, by taking a few deep breaths or starting with gentle, reassuring external stimulation. The more you let go, the more natural and intense each movement will feel.

Setting a pleasant atmosphere (soft lighting, a relaxing playlist) transforms every session into a ritual of pleasure and discovery, without pressure and without taboo!

Expert techniques for effectively massaging the prostate during masturbation

Massaging the prostate during masturbation isn't just for the initiated! With a little practice and the right tips, every man can transform his solo sessions into a true pleasure ritual. Here is the expert advice from ONY to boost your sensations and explore often uncharted territory.

Finding and stimulating the prostate with your fingers: our step-by-step guide

First of all, start with a generous amount of lubricant on your finger and around the anus. This simple step really does make all the difference, reducing discomfort and promoting relaxation. As for the setting, choose a quiet place where you won't be disturbed. Lie down or squat, whichever feels most comfortable for you, and take the time to breathe deeply.

Gently insert your index finger (or whichever finger you prefer), slowly, until you feel a small firm bulge on the anterior wall, towards the front of the body: you've found it — that's the prostate. No need to go too deep! Generally, it sits around 5 to 7 centimetres from the entrance.

On the stimulation side:

• Gentle pressure and circular movements: play with finesse and test different intensities.

• Subtle back-and-forth movements: some enjoy light, delicate strokes, while others prefer firmer, more assertive pressure.

The secret? Slowing the pace, staying attuned to your sensations, and adjusting according to your own pleasure. The more you relax, the deeper the sensation becomes. Take the time to discover how your body responds: every prostate is unique, and yours deserves your full attention.

Our top rhythms and movements you absolutely have to try

To turn prostate massage during masturbation into a truly explosive experience, vary your pleasures! Here are some essential techniques to try:

• Concentric circles: move your finger in small circles over the prostate for an enveloping effect.

• Light tapping: small pulses can create a progressive build-up of arousal.

• Constant pressure: keep your finger in gentle contact, held for 15 to 30 seconds, then release.

• Rhythmic back-and-forth motion: insert then partially withdraw your finger at varying rhythms to stimulate in depth.

• Synchronise with penile masturbation: for many, this is the ultimate combination — the one that multiplies sensations and leads directly to prostatic orgasm.

Test, dare, enjoy yourself. What matters is respecting your desires in the moment. No pressure: alternate between gentleness and firmness according to the intensity that suits you.

Using sex toys and specialist stimulators like a pro

For those who want to go further, sex toys designed for prostate massage are formidable allies! Their ergonomic design and safety make all the difference, especially for beginners. Opt for a small-sized model that always has a flared base, which is your guarantee of safety.

Our usage tips:

• Lubricate your sex toy generously before each use.

• Insert it slowly, take the time to relax, and never force it.

• Play with angles and vibrations: follow your body's anatomy and adjust according to how you feel.

Stimulators often offer varied vibration and rotation modes (such as the Explo by ONY model), enabling tailored stimulation. You'll discover sensations impossible to achieve with fingers alone: amplitude, consistency, power…

The benefits of specialist sex toys:

• Targeted and consistent stimulation of the prostate.

• Can be combined with stimulation of the perineum or scrotum.

• Cutting-edge technology: multiple modes, ergonomics designed for male pleasure, premium and body-safe materials.

Go step by step to build your confidence. Your pleasure will grow as you become more at ease with each movement. By giving yourself this time, you open yourself up to an intimate experience that is authentic, intense and completely uninhibited.

How to maximise pleasure and finally achieve a prostatic orgasm?

Achieving a prostatic orgasm fascinates more and more men in search of new sensations: this form of pleasure is often described as more intense, deeper and more enveloping than classic penile pleasure. But to fully enjoy it, it's not just about locating the prostate — you also need to learn how to dose stimulation, manage your arousal and, above all, stay attuned to your sensations.

The art of listening to your body and adjusting your stimulation

For a truly successful prostate massage during masturbation, it all starts with listening to yourself. There's no need to aim for performance: your feelings come first, as every body responds in its own way. Give yourself the freedom to explore without pressure and without specific expectations.

Start with gentle, even light pressure, then let yourself be guided by what you feel: adjust the rhythm and intensity according to your body's signals. Signs such as a pleasant wave of warmth, involuntary contractions of the perineum, or arousal gradually building show you're on the right track. Conversely, if pleasure fades or you feel discomfort, change technique or take a break before starting again.

What matters is respecting your own pace and desires.

Don't feel guilty if the prostatic orgasm doesn't come straight away: what matters is learning without taboo, and savouring the progress with each new session. Patience and self-compassion make the experience richer and more liberating.

Mastering arousal and prostatic ejaculation

Prostate massage opens the door to a range of unique pleasures, sometimes even without touching the penis. This "internal" enjoyment is frequently expressed as a diffuse, lasting sensation, and in some men, as an orgasm without ejaculation.

A few simple tips to intensify your experience:

• Breathe deeply during stimulation to stay connected to your sensations and keep the build-up of arousal going.

• When you feel the point of no return approaching, slow down or pause the stimulation for a moment: this control of rhythm allows you to delay and then amplify pleasure, and even chain multiple orgasms.

• If you wish to encourage prostatic ejaculation, continue gently until you feel strong contractions of the perineum and a diffuse warmth, often accompanied by a flow of seminal fluid.

Keep this central idea in mind: there is no standard way to enjoy the prostate. Some reach orgasm without ejaculating; for others, prostatic pleasure complements and enriches classic pleasure. Stay attentive, stay curious, and welcome each discovery with an open and compassionate mindset.

Essential precautions and when to consult a professional

Practising prostate massage is generally safe for most men, but a few simple rules help ensure an experience that is both enjoyable and reassuring. Being aware of potential risks and knowing when to seek medical advice means you can enjoy prostatic pleasure with complete peace of mind.

Always start by avoiding prostate massage if you have a local infection (such as haemorrhoids, anal fissures, or recent bleeding), or if you feel unusual pain in the anal or pelvic area. Even without symptoms, certain mistakes can compromise your comfort: overly abrupt movements, the use of unsuitable equipment, or a lack of hygiene can lead to irritation or even minor trauma.

Seek medical advice promptly:

• If the pain persists or a fever develops after a session;

• If blood is present in the stools, urine, or semen;

• If you experience recurring urinary tract infections;

• Or if you have a medical history, particularly involving prostate conditions or surgery in the pelvic area.

We also recommend regular prostate screening from the age of 50, or even earlier if you have a family history or unusual symptoms.

Listening to your body must always be your priority: prostate massage should remain a moment of pleasure, gentleness and respect for your limits. By staying informed and consulting a professional if necessary, you take care of your health and sexual wellbeing, without taboos.